Could your sex life use a boost? It's normal for people in long-term relationships to feel like things have gotten a little (or a lot)…stale. But simply mixing it up a bit can be all it takes to reignite the spark, says Ellen Barnard, a sexuality educator and owner of the Madison, WI boutique A Woman's Touch. Shake things up by starting a bucket list with all the sexy situations you want to try (we're serious). Feel free to steal the 11 ideas below—they're guaranteed to boost your sex life and the connection between you and your partner. Now, how quickly can you check them all off?
Have "Just Because" Sex
You don't always need an occasion to have sex; doing it "just because" can majorly boost your bond in the long run, says Tammy Nelson, PhD, author of The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity. So instead of waiting for Saturday night or for when the kids are away, jump right in—right now. Need a little motivation? Sex is a great way to get rid of tension and let go of the stress of a busy day, explains Nelson. Plus, sex begets sex: Once you start having spur-of-the-moment romps, it will feel more like a habit. That's reason enough to rethink your usual Monday night TV plans.
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Have "LOL" Sex
Bringing a sense of fun into the bedroom is key for a healthy sex life. So try something that may seem a little silly at first, like giving your partner a lap dance or having him guess what tune you're humming during oral sex. This isn't about perfecting a new move or pretending that you're starring in a porno: It's about having fun together. As long as you're both comfortable being silly and have a sense of adventure, you'll emerge even closer—even if the technique you tried wasn't exactly a winner.
Have "Sense-ational" Sex
Blindfolds, noise cancelling headphones, remaining completely silent as your partner has his way with you…omitting one sense can allow your other senses to work overtime, creating an OMG experience for both of you. Try it out, then switch roles so your partner can have a go.
Have "Everything But" Sex
Remember that intense feeling of making out for hours—but not going any further? Experts agree that the intensity of kissing and touching can get lost in long-term relationships, when it's easy to zero in on the main event. So this time, ban sex and focus on everything that comes before. You'll be surprised at how hot it can get even without the grand finale.
Have "We Might Get Caught" Sex
No, we're not suggesting that you go at it in a restaurant bathroom or on an airplane (just think of the anything-but-sexy germs). This is more about going a little bit outside of your comfort zone, like keeping the shades open or getting it on in the living room when no one's home. Although you know the odds of anyone walking in on you are slim, the novelty of it will kick your adrenaline into overdrive and lead to a more intense experience, says Barnard.